A Little Good News For a Change : )

A few weeks ago when my Mom left our house, it wasn't under the best of circumstances. Her mental illness had been getting worse & at the time she wasn't on the proper medication or being seen by a Medical Professional who fully understood her illness.

The morning she left, I had taken her to her regular Dr. for a follow-up. While we were there, I told him about the very long weekend we had just had(see: To: Lady in frozen vegetable isle of the grocery store..... ). He saw the state that she was in & told me to take her over to the ER for an Emergency Psychological Evaluation, I did. When she was taken back, she denied everything & they never even did the psych eval. Instead, she claimed that I had been mistreating &/or neglecting her, which couldn't be further from the truth(I have the bills, receipts, & the fact that we are losing everything we worked for in the past 4 years because I put her needs before ours!). Anyway, I started getting threatening calls from a particular social worker from Adult Protective Services(APS) saying that if I didn't come pick my Mom up from the ER that they would charge me with abandonment. Again I explained to this lady(& I use the word lady to be polite!) what had been going on & that I needed help with my Mom, I could no longer do it by myself. My Mom is the most manipulative person I have ever met & she can be that "sweet little old lady" that she wants everyone to believe she is, that's just not who she is the majority of the time. She has never met a Psychiatrist she couldn't wrap around her little finger in her 45 minutes!!!

To make a long story short, I spoke to one of the ladies who run the Assisted Living Facility that my Mom is in now. Her name is Rebbie & she told me how manipulative my Mom is & how she can be very cruel & how she cries the "blues" to the Dr. when she sees him. She's now accusing the facility of the very same things she said I was doing! She doesn't like the fact that they treat her like a "mental patient" - she IS a mental patient! She claims they are not feeding her - they're feeding her, it's just not what she would like it to be- a continuous flow of JUNK FOOD!!! (see the third paragraph of: {PAUSE} New Outlook.....Venting... ).

I've been told many things about my Mom over the past few years. Including Bipolar disorder(Bipolar disorder) , I've been told she is Schizoaffective(Schizoaffective disorder ), Obsessive Compulsive(Obsessive-compulsive disorder ), & that she has a personality disorder
(Personality disorder). I'm not sure exactly what is going on with her, but whatever it is, she has been this way most of my life. Like I've said before, when you grow up a certain way, you just think that everyone lives like that. I didn't learn until the past few years that what we lived with was anything but normal! My priority now is to make sure my daughter grows up in a healthy, loving home, so that she can become everything she is meant to be!

I'm sorry my Mom has the problems she has, but I am glad that other people (namely the "professionals" who have accused me of doing my Mom wrong!) are now getting it!!! If any of you are dealing with a family member with any of the above mental illnesses, by all means, hold on as long as you can & fight for the help that they need. You also have to know when it is time to let go. It's time for me to let go.